I was looking through my blog stats and realised that someone had come to my blog by searching the words “marriage girl questions india”. I figure out that this would be a query searched by a wannabe husband getting into the modern day equivalent of swayamvar. I have not go answer to the question ‘What do you ask a girl?’ during the formal ‘arranged marriage’ matrimonial talks. Now that almost half my friends have exchanged vows, there are too many ‘experts’ to answer this question but none have answered it to my satisfaction. I had a chance to ask it once and I think I failed miserably on that.
‘I met her once and found her she was the one’ said Sri who was supposed to decide on this prospective match while his parents were strolling on one side of Lalbagh and he (and her) on the other side faraway from the earshot. While some of you may tell me ‘Ajay, isnt it not like love at first sight, why are you so critical?’ . I cannot digest the fact, that after rounds of kundali screening, 2 rounds of background check and then 1 hour of meeting, you will fall in love with her in the first sight and say ‘Yes’.
I wouldnt decide my job (which I can quit when i want) just after the first interview, I dont know how am gonna take this ‘interview’ . I think many of us, like Sri (and may be me), would resign to the fact that their aint many options so better ‘fall in love’ during the ‘interview’. It is a compromise Indian males (not to mention females) arrive at. The fact things have come a long way from how my parents ‘interview’ went – their saying yes was just cursory; to how it is today – a certain period of courtship, is definitely an improvement in the baap bharaose culture of marriage.
‘I you cant beat them join them’ , so all those of my friends who were rebels by their own standards during college and didnt now understand ‘arranged marriage’, now have joined up the league of my elders, ‘You will not know until you try it (selecting the girl in the formal setup)’. I dont believe these turncoats (as yet)
